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Curating your life to invite more of what you want My client calls are so lovely. It’s really a gift to be able to spend an hour diving into and participating in other people’s expansion. We get to dive into the really profound parts of life that my clients are experiencing. I help them navigate towards their own truth and health and also share some concrete ways to implement the different concepts we talk about. A client today wanted to dive into some specific ways to take general concepts and apply them to their life, since what they are creating is new to them. We talked about curating your life like one would their living room, filling the spaces with things that bring peace and order and excitement and comfort to your lived experience. You hear a lot of inspirational quotes that sometimes don’t land because our brains want a more nuanced approach, or suggestions for something more specific. So, I’m going to share some concrete ways to curate your life in a way that invites more of what you want. There are A LOT of ways to do this—I’m just sharing a few that have helped me. I’ll also share that these are just suggestions; everyone’s experience IS so nuanced and unique, so take what you desire out of these different ideas. 1. Build a system of habits and routines that, at a minimum, bring you joy. Start thinking about what you want your days to look like, from the time you wake up to the moment you fall asleep. Then, compare that to the patterns you’re operating under right now. Jot down how they are similar and how you can move towards more of what you want. Create your baseline / subconscious patterns with the lens of joy, health and satisfaction. Our patterns build our life’s foundational structure. 2. Practice letting your truth BE your truth. Repressing your truth is no fun, and it also prevents you from experiencing all that you want in its fullness. Speaking your truth can look like setting clear boundaries, letting yourself be sad, letting yourself celebrate YOU, introducing your goals and who you’re becoming to your friends and family so they keep up to date with who you are, accepting your desires, being okay with needing rest, loving things that other people don’t, etc. The more free you are with expressing and exploring your truth, the freer you become and the more aligned you become, with yourself. 3. Get comfortable with not being good at some things. Our ego loves to protect us. We sometimes avoid new things that we actually want to try because we’re scared of being bad at it. This actually limits our ability to achieve what we want by preventing us from even beginning. No one who is successful or spiritually profound or exemplary at anything was that good when they started. They failed. They tripped. They were embarrassed. They didn’t know what the next step was at some points. Let the newness and discomfort of being bad at something encourage you, as it’s a natural part of the process of becoming better. If you want to become or do something new, you’re going to have to take baby steps to get there. 4. Become aware of how you speak to yourself. Some of my clients, through their work with me, have become self-advocating, self-celebrating warriors. And they weren’t always that way. One of my clients once said, “Once I became actually aware of how badly I talked to myself, and how naturally and easily that harsh language flowed, everything changed. I didn’t realize how mean I was being to myself—I would never talk to anyone like that.” Once they realized they were living with a deep, ingrained pattern of self-sabotage and were constantly beating themselves up, they were able to slowly rewire their brains and create intracommunication patterns that were kinder. The kinder you are to yourself, the more energy (and confidence) you have to create a life you love. I’m stopping there. :) I could go on and on about curating a life that invites more of what you want because I’m constantly thinking about and experimenting with these different concepts. But for now, take some of these ideas and test them out yourselves. And remember, you have the agency to create patterns, both mentally and physically, that allow you to feel healthier and more joyful. Which tip resonated with you the most? Reply to this email and share what landed with you—I’d love to hear from you! :) I believe in you, Abe
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